Not Everyone May Be Rooting For You

As sad as this is to imagine, not all of your friends and family may be thrilled that you are releasing weight. The reasons for this are complex, and don’t necessarily imply that you have mean-spirited people in your life. It is often inadvertent on the part of the saboteurs—they rarely realize what they are doing. This can be one of the toughest hurdles to leap, especially if the saboteurs are in your immediate circle. So if this is your reality, the first key to dealing with it is awareness. Here are some signs of diet sabotage—how many have you experienced?

• “Honey, you know I like you just the way you are.”
• “I think your love handles are cute.”
• “It’s Christmas…you can’t diet during the holidays.”
• “Just have a few bites…this is the best cake I‘ve ever tasted.”
• “You’re wasting away to nothing.”
• “What—now you’re too good for my cooking?”
• “What do you mean you’re not eating meat anymore—have you lost your mind?”
• “I wondered why you were so grumpy lately—it must be because you’re on a diet.”
• “The gym can wait…I haven’t seen you in ages.”
• “You’re doing so well on your diet—let’s go out for ice cream to celebrate.”
• “It’s too cold to go for a walk—let’s watch a movie instead.”
• “But I made this pie just for you—it’s your favorite!”
• “Why bother dieting—you know you’ll just gain it all back and then some.”
• “Oh come on, have the last cookie.”
• “Just finish up these potatoes—there aren’t enough to save for another meal.”
• “Let’s celebrate your birthday at that French restaurant you love so much…you know how you adore their chocolate tortes.”
• Then there are friends who repeatedly pass bowls of junky snack foods to you every time you come over.
• Co-workers who always have a candy bowl on their desk and bring donuts into the office once a week.
• Spouses who offer boxes of candy and other treats as gifts.
• Don’t go getting too skinny on us now.
• You look great! You don’t need to lose anymore weight.

Julie’s experience is typical. “Whenever I make an effort to improve my eating and reduce my weight, my friends, my mother and even my husband seem intent on undermining me. They bring rich foods into the house, they push desserts in front of me and tell me I don’t need to diet.”

Your weight loss program forces those around you to examine their own weight, and that may make them uncomfortable because they aren’t ready to change. Or perhaps they’ve witnessed your past weight loss failures and are simply trying to prevent another one. Or they could be simply jealous and fear that you may seek out new relationships to match your new body and improved self-image.

Whatever the cause, the answer is speaking your truth to those you experience trying to sabotage you. Let them know how you view their actions and words and request their support. It’s fair to ask your mother to fix more vegetables when you come over to eat. It’s okay to tell your friends to put the Cheetos away before you stop by. It’s reasonable to ask a co-worker to consider bringing healthier treats into work—or to at least put her donuts someplace less conspicuous. Even better—if it feels comfortable to do so, consider suggesting to your boss that the company adopt a healthy eating policy and dissuade employees from bringing in junk food. In any case, be sure to keep healthy snacks at the office so you can join in a birthday celebration—without the cake. When people try and shove food in your face, just say firmly: “No thanks—maybe later.” A conditional response will often make them go away, when a firm “No” elicits an argument. Above all, don’t be afraid to be assertive about what you need to succeed. You are the only one who gets to decide what you eat, and you need to enforce that right.

Others may need reassurances from you that you will not abandon them once you reach your target weight. Rather than nagging and pleading, be a good example for them, and some of them may well join you in your quest. Perhaps you’ll need to find new ways of participating in familiar social rituals. If you’re accustomed to going out for drinks after work with pals, you can still go—just order mineral water and a veggie plate instead of a pitcher of beer and a heap of onion rings. Or if you need to turn down food offered by friends and family, make sure they understand it’s the Boston cream pie you’re rejecting, not them.

But there’s no doubt your priorities will change as you get healthier. You may prefer going to the gym after work instead of a pub. You may want to go for a nice long run on Saturday mornings rather than go out for a big greasy brunch. You may learn to love different restaurants than the ones you’ve been used to frequenting. All these things can be cause for concern among those who are invested in your not changing. When they complain to you about your new habits, simply but firmly explain that you now place a high priority on your health, and let them know they are welcome to join you. If they insist on telling you how you should eat and what worked for them, simply smile, nod your head and say, “Thank you, but this is working for me.” Inevitably, some friends may indeed fade away from your life—but they will be the ones who are most toxic for your longterm success—so just remain clear what matters most to you, and you’ll be fine. For every potato who won’t get off the couch with you, there’s a new friend waiting who’ll love to join you on your daily walks.

Spouses can present the worst situations. A New York diet doctor studied data from more than 6,000 of his patients, and found that 70 percent of the women had difficulty eliciting support from their mates, as opposed to 5 percent of his male patients. He learned that a man often considers his wife’s diet as her problem, not his, and is unaware how his actions affect the outcome. Fears and concerns about sexual attractiveness may also be part of the mix. Communicating why you are intent on releasing your excess weight and enlisting your spouse as a partner is key. Emphasize that your motivation is better health and more time to enjoy life together—it’ll be hard to argue with that.

Remember, every time you say “yes” to something you know is not good for you, when what you really want to say is “no,” you can create passive anger within yourself. Passive anger can gnaw away at you in the form of guilt and depression, making lifestyle changes much more difficult. Until you can say “no” whenever you want to, “yes” means nothing. When others sabotage you, remember that the problem lies with them and not you. You have taken charge of your life.

If sabotage remains an ongoing issue for you, journal about it. Your reality may be that you will just have to have stronger resolve and constant clarity about your intentions. Venting about it to your journal is at least an outlet. And you are especially likely to find comfort from a support group. Just don’t give away to anyone the power to determine the fate of your body!

Becoming Slender For Life pages 213 – 216

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You listen to your powerful, intelligent mind. Should any thought of eating or food arise, your mind creates a mental stop sign. You see a stop sign between you and the food. You hear the word “STOP” resounding through your mind and body. You stop and think, “Do I really need this?” You listen to your mind; you are in control.

Hypnosis isn’t about being out of control – it is the ultimate display of control. The dude in the commercial is out of control – food is controlling him. With hypnosis mind control you can take control of your thoughts, your emotions, what you eat and how much you eat. Learn self hypnosis today and stop and think. OH, the bonus, you will save money! Self-hypnosis is free!

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The Very Real Danger of
Genetically Modified Foods

Chinese researchers have found small pieces of rice ribonucleic acid (RNA) in the blood and organs of humans who eat rice. The Nanjing University-based team showed that this genetic material will bind to receptors in human liver cells and influence the uptake of cholesterol from the blood.

The type of RNA in question is called microRNA (abbreviated to miRNA) due to its small size. MiRNAs have been studied extensively since their discovery ten years ago, and have been implicated as players in several human diseases including cancer, Alzheimer’s, and diabetes. They usually function by turning down or shutting down certain genes. The Chinese research provides the first in vivo example of ingested plant miRNA surviving digestion and influencing human cell function in this way.

Should the research survive scientific scrutiny — a serious hurdle — it could prove a game changer in many fields. It would mean that we’re eating not just vitamins, protein, and fuel, but gene regulators as well.

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We all need to learn more about genetically modified foods. Have we changed our food supply forever? Is there any going back? Have we allowed companies like Monsanto to change human gene regulators? So many questions and so little public discourse.

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Bouncing Back From The Wall

One night Margaret came in discouraged. Her weight had held steady for the past two weeks, and she had only dropped three pounds this past month. In total, she had let go of 43 pounds in five months, so she was actually doing well, but she still had 100 pounds to go. Dejected, Margaret talked about the voice in her head that was telling her this was too hard, that she should just give up, because she’ll never be successful. “At first it was so easy and natural to eat healthily, but now it’s getting difficult. My portions are getting bigger; I’m eating more and more almonds and sneaking candy.”

Margaret was recycling. Change does not occur in a straight line. She had been making changes in her life and doing very well, but then she hit the wall again. The old habits and the old pessimistic voices in her head were haunting her. Throughout life we hit these walls and many people give up, thinking they have failed. But Margaret wasn’t failing. She also talked about how in the past two weeks she had increased her exercise and overall she was eating healthily. While she had not released any weight in recent weeks, she hadn’t gained any either.

Margaret isn’t back where she started—look how far she had come! Yes, she hit the wall and it was time for her to go to a deeper level of healing. Just like an onion with a spot—as each layer is pealed away the spot diminishes.

Remember, weight release, like most things in life, is not a straight-line event. In other words, releasing weight does not look like going from Point “A” to Point “B” in a straight line.

For most of us, it looks something like this:

When you reach your goal and look back, you’ll see that your weight loss was really a series of ups and downs, even though it will then seem like it was a straight line release.

Our weight fluctuates throughout each day and from day to day. At times, body weight may plateau for a few days while your body makes other adjustments. It is not unusual for a client’s weight to remain the same or be down very little one week, yet at the same time be down a dress size or in a notch or two on the belt from the previous week.

A study by the National Weight Loss Registry shows that the most successful people who lose weight and keep it off, weigh themselves daily.

This daily weigh-in is a reality check, a way of monitoring and making sure that you stay within a healthy weight range.

Becoming Slender For Life, second edition, pages 192 – 194

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Want to Lose Weight? Try Teamwork

WebMD Health News, February 17, 2012: Weight loss may be influenced by joining a team. A new study shows that people who shed at least 5% of their initial body weight during a weight loss competition were likely to be on the same teams. Those who said their teammates played a large role in their weight loss were more likely to lose a significant amount of weight. The findings appear in Obesity.

Shows like The Biggest Loser often have team-, family-, or couples-based competitions that harness the power of peer influence when it comes to weight loss.

People around us affect our health behaviors. This is true for healthy and unhealthy behaviors. It could be quite beneficial if a bunch of friends that choose to lose weight make healthy food choices together, and hold each other accountable to those choices.

Team members can motivate one another to stay the course. If someone is doing really well, it could influence the whole group.

People who lost at least 5% of their body weight, which is an amount that is thought to be significant in improving health, tended to be on the same teams. Those who reported a higher level of social influence by their teammates increased their odds of significant weight loss by 20%.

Team captains lost more weight than team members. This may be because they were more motivated and engaged in the contest.

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I’ve learned over the years the importance of team work for achieving my goals. Even when I don’t have an “official team” the group support of a marathon or a bicycling event like the Chilly Hilly or the STP (Seattle To Portland) bike rides give me the edge to go faster. With a team I am stronger and it makes it more fun. So what ever your health and fitness goals are, enlist support and build your team. Make sure that hypnosis for weight loss is part of your team.

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A poor quality diet is associated with an increased risk for anxiety and depression in both adults and adolescents. Research has implicated inflammation in the pathophysiology of depression. From this perspective, inflammation-enhancing diets could fuel depressive symptoms. For example, a diet high in trans fatty acids has been shown to increase the risk of depression, presumably by favoring the production of pro-inflammatory cytokines.

Other components of the diet that promote inflammation are: refined starches, sugars, and saturated fatty acids. On the other hand, fruits and vegetables, and fiber-rich grains have anti-inflammatory effects. Although a poor quality diet can favor inflammation and depression, once an individual develops depression, that negative mood state can, in turn, further advance inflammation.

Moreover, a negative mood state can adversely impact health behaviors (eg. diet, sleep, exercise, etc), thereby further promoting an inflammatory state. On the other hand, the Plant-based diet, which has an anti-inflammatory, anti-oxidant effect, has been shown to prevent depressive disorders.

Eat Less Crap:

• C = carbonated drinks
• R = refined drinks
• A = artificial sweeteners
• P = processed food

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