You may be wondering, “What does he mean, ‘talk to your inner child.'” No, I’ve not gone off the deep end here. Stop and think for a moment about your own self talk. Typically what I hear from clients in my Seattle hypnosis and Bainbridge hypnosis offices is very negative chatter: i.e. “What’s the matter with you?!” “You’re too fat.” “You’re not good enough.” It’s like a critical parent shaming and shoulding on a little kid. And of course then, that part of us that is upset and hurting feels worse and wants another cookie. These internal dialogues go on all the time. What if you were to turn that negative dialogue around and make it a positive, supportive dialogue? What if you were empowering yourself? What if you were to give to yourself the love and nurturing that you so desperately try to get from others? Mindful self hypnosis can help you to change that inner dialogue to one that is empowering, loving and nurturing.
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Talk to your inner child
The next time you become aware of your inner child needing comfort, ask the child what’s going on and what he or she needs. Not surprisingly, this suggestion is often met with skepticism. Yet which is more crazy—listening to yourself and giving yourself kind loving thoughts, or continuing the usual negative dialogue that you’ve been used to having with yourself?
Solution for communicating with your inner child:
If you have the CD set, be sure to listen to the Inner Child Track (CD #5 tracks 4 & 5). Grab a piece of paper and a pen, pencil, marker, crayon or paint brush, and respond with your dominant hand. Ask your inner child these questions:
- Why are you upset?
- What would make you happy?
- What are you afraid of?
Next, using your other hand, allow the child to write back. The goal here is to get a healthy dialogue going with your child.
I’m sure that you parents have experienced times when you had to undress your screaming child and put him to bed or strap him into a car seat when he wasn’t cooperative. As parents we do whatever it takes to ensure our children grow up safe and healthy. That’s also the role of the loving, nurturing adult part of you. There are times when your inner child wants a cookie or an extra helping and you just need to say, “No.” We set boundaries with our children, we tell them it’s okay to play in the fenced backyard, but that they must not play on the freeway. And it’s sometimes okay to have a cookie, but not the whole bag!
For many of us, if we fed our children what we have in the past fed ourselves, it would be considered child abuse!
Your job is to learn to give love and care
to yourself and to be your own loving, nurturing, responsible parent.
Isn’t it time for you to love yourself, care about for yourself and accept yourself as you are? Learn mindful self hypnosis and stop abusing yourself.
Your Hypnosis Health Info Hypnotic Suggestion for today:
I love myself, I care about myself and I accept myself as I am.
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