Be happy! You are resilient! Harvard psychologist Dan Gilbert’s research shows us that when you are feeling miserable, the immune system of your brain goes to work prompting you to lift your spirits. Major life traumas that happened over three months ago, with only a few exceptions, has no impact whatsoever on your happiness. In my Seattle hypnosis, Bainbridge hypnosis and online via my Hypnosis Health Info Internet Office, you can learn the mindfulness hypnosis tools to be mindful in this moment, to be grateful for this moment and to be happy.
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How Does Misfortune Affect Long-Term Happiness?
NPR, Ted Radio Hour with Dan Gilbert: August 15, 2014: Because happiness can be synthesized. Sir Thomas Browne wrote in 1642, I am the happiest man alive. I have that in me that can convert poverty to riches, adversity to prosperity. I am more invulnerable than Achilles. Fortune hath not one place to hit me. What kind of remarkable machinery does this have in his head?
Well, it turns out it’s precisely the same remarkable machinery that all of us have. Human beings have something that we might think of as a psychological immune system, a system of cognitive processes – largely non-conscious cognitive processes – that help them change their views of the world so that they can feel better about the worlds in which they find themselves. Like Sir Thomas, you have this machine. Unlike Sir Thomas, you seem not to know it.
Synthetic doesn’t mean not real. It means it was synthesized. The word synthetic describes the origin of something. So synthetic nylon is nylon. It’s not an imaginary stocking. It’s just manufactured in a laboratory. Similarly, real and synthetic are not kinds of happiness. They’re sources of happiness. They tell us whether a person’s happiness was generated by the events that happened to them or by their reframing of those events. Both of these are legitimate ways to achieve happiness. And the kind of happiness we achieve, as far as psychologists can tell, isn’t qualitatively different.
Happiness is an emotion. It’s a feeling, and the human brain isn’t built to sustain a single feeling over the long-term. Look, think of it this way. Your emotions are a compass. They’re telling you which direction to go in. When you feel bad, you turn left. You try something different in your life. When you feel good, you keep on marching in the direction you’re going. That’s what emotions are for. Now what good would a compass be if it were perpetually stuck on north? It turns out that human beings need their emotions to both be elicited, but then to come back to baseline. And happiness is one of the emotions that does exactly that.
RAZ: So I guess you’re right. I mean, there really is no secret to happiness.
GILBERT: There is no secret. It takes work, and it isn’t hard work. But it’s work that you have to put in religiously over time. Somebody who spends a few minutes a day playing with their children and really being present, that’s not going to make you instantly happy the day you do it. But over months and years of practice, this will change your life.
We are only now beginning to understand that we are as resilient a species as we turn out to be. We are created to be happy, healthy and to heal. With mindfulness hypnosis, you can appreciate that every moment is a new gift. If you miss this moment, there is another one. You always get another opportunity. That is the wonderful richness of life!
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