Opportunities for growth
Opportunities for growth are constants in your daily life. Your relationship with your partner is perhaps the most significant opportunity. Your interactions with other family members, friends, the boss, peers and people you supervise provide you growth opportunities. Sometimes, brief interactions with strangers offer you these opportunities for growth.
Mindfulness self-hypnosis and other mindfulness based techniques combined with the Greatest Expression of You process are perfect resources for you to use for your growth and healing when these opportunities are presented.
Man in the Mirror
Do you remember Michael Jackson’s Man in the Mirror?
“I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself, and then make a change”
It’s not about fixing the other person. It is about you making the change.
The anger, hurt, fear and sadness are yours.
When you feel hurt or unloved by your partner, when your boss makes you feel small, when a stranger cuts you off on the freeway and you feel rage, you are the one hurting. IT IS YOUR HURT. This is your opportunity to heal your anger, hurt, fear and sadness.
“Take a look at yourself, and then make a change”
Observe your experience
Next time there is an upset in the relationship, pay attention to your thoughts. Observe your upset and that you want to blame the other person for causing these thoughts.
Then, when you are being high jacked by your amygdala and flooded with emotions, notice the emotions that you feel.
Pay attention to your body and detect where you experience these upsetting emotions in your body. How would you describe these physical sensations?
Remember that it is you that is experiencing all this, not the person who triggered these thoughts, feelings and sensations. This is your opportunity for healing. Trying to change the other person will only cause you more upset.
Your Hypnosis Health Info Hypnotic Suggestion for today:
I look at myself and make a change.
What do I most need now?
As soon as you become aware of your thoughts, feelings and physical sensations, wiggle your toes, wiggle your butt, take in a deep breath through your nose and let it out through your mouth. Then, from this place of mindfulness, explore within yourself, “What do I most need now?”
And then give it to yourself. Wrap your unconditionally loving, nurturing grandparent arms around you and let that inner child within you know that he or she is OK and that you will protect them. It is not their job to be in relationship with the person who triggered the upset in you. No one else can give it to you.
Until you acknowledge yourself and know that you are important, good enough, smart enough, capable enough, you will never be able to hear it from someone else.
You must love yourself wholeheartedly and unconditionally in order to feel loved by your partner and others.
And you must Joyfully be the Greatest Expression of You to un-memorize the physical sessions of anger, hurt, fear and sadness.
Be your best self
The Greatest Expression of You process allows you to be your best self. From this state of beingness you have choices. You can step out from the suffering of the experience and into equanimity. From here, if it’s appropriate and if it feels safe, you can take ownership of your experience and explore it with the person who triggered your upset.
Remember, do not blame them. Do not try to fix or change them. They were the Man in the Mirror. They merely reflected your opportunity for growth back to you. It is your stuff, not theirs! So thank them for helping you with your personal growth and healing.
With the Greatest Expression of You process, you can use these opportunities for growth and become your best self.
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