Have you ever had a Pity Party? If you are human and still have a pulse, I bet you have experienced Pity Parties in the past and I bet you will sometime in the future. I believe that Pity Parties are one of the conditions of being human.
Pity Parties happen when life doesn’t occur as we think that it should, when we’ve been hurt or wronged, when we are sick or exhausted. A Pity Party can occur for seemingly no reason at all.
Sometimes a Pity Party is fairly short-lived and at other times it can go on for hours or even days. A Pity Party is when everything sucks and you can’t see the beauty, abundance and love in your life.
Your Hypnosis Health Info Hypnotic Suggestion for today:
I appreciate the colors and the warm glow of sun along with the
love, abundance and joy in my life.
Pity Party or the Greatest Expression of You
One of the many benefits of the Greatest Expression of You process is that it helps you to avoid Pity Parties. After all, if you are memorizing Joy, Mentally Rehearsing your day being your best self and using Self-hypnosis to remind yourself who it is you are becoming, it’s hard to think and feel, “Woe is me…. ain’t it awful.” But, in spite of our best efforts, at times we slip back into old patterns of thoughts and emotions. Those old neuropathways that we’ve been working at disconnecting will spark and we are back into the hypnotic trance of pity and depression.
Recently, while I was in the throes of my own Pity Party, I had the intellectual awareness to know that I had the tools and the ability to change my mental and emotional state. What I found fascinating as I observed my thoughts and emotions was that I knew at that moment emotionally, I did not want to change. It was as if I had earned the right to feel bad. It was my meltdown. I deserved to have it and I wanted to keep it! Emotionally, I just wasn’t ready to switch.
I chose not to judge my need to wallow in my sorrows. I made it OK to be there. In the privacy of my own mind, I wrapped my arms around the little boy within me and just let him be with what he was feeling. In that magical moment it was as if he’d had enough, slipped off of my lap and went and played. There was a huge lift of the clouds of doom and gloom and I began to appreciate the colors and the warm glow of sun along with the love, abundance and joy in my life.
Pity Party Journaling
Years ago I discovered a writing exercise that proved to be very effective for myself. Because of my own success with this exercise, I began assigning it to clients. The positive feedback has been amazing. People find it to be powerfully therapeutic and a great way to move through the Pity Party and get on with living life.
Here is the exercise:
- Give yourself 30 minutes of uninterrupted time.
- You will need paper (scrap paper works great) a pen or pencil.
- For the next 30 minutes, write as fast and as furious as you can about how life sucks and how terrible things are. Don’t stop. Keep writing. If you run out of things to write, start over. Push yourself and get it all out.
- When you are done, crumple of the paper and throw it away. Take a moment to smile, and notice the Joy in your life. Give thanks for the abundance in life. Use self-hypnosis to remind yourself who it is that you are becoming – the Greatest Expression of You!
Even though the assignment is to write non-stop for 30 minutes, most people never make it beyond ten minutes. I usually last 5 to 7 minutes. I reach a point where I get so bored doing this that I just can’t go on. The absurdity of my Pity Party becomes so apparent that I can sit back and giggle at myself. My thought at this point is usually, “Oh thank God! That’s over.” A huge burden has been lifted and I experience a of sigh of relief.
By giving yourself the opportunity to wallow in the mud of your woes, you get it all out and can move on. You give yourself the opportunity to experience your thoughts and emotions without judgement and you quickly move through them.
The Greatest Expression of You process is not about denying your human experience. Each of us have our own issues to work through and hopefully we find resolution.
Allow yourself to feel the full range of emotions. That is healthy. But you don’t have to be stuck in old patterns of behavior, thought and emotions that do not serve you. You can change and live your life to the fullest. Joyfully being the Greatest Expression of You.
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